I decided on a whim to go natural. Partly due to a life change and mostly due to what I was telling my daughter.
My daughter had natural (chemically untreated) hair all her life, until one fateful day when her father decided to relaxer her hair without my permission or knowledge. When I went to pick her up, I was pissed to say the least. It hurt me to my heart to see that her hair was relaxed. She had beautiful curly hair. But, she wanted straight hair to be like the other kids in school and because others (not in my family) were telling her she needed it. I always told her that her hair was beautiful and she doesn’t need a perm. She has the rest of her life to mess up her hair.
Fast forward a year later, her hair is 4 inches shorter than when she got it initially relaxed. Not due to cuts or trims, but due to breakage. I took on the responsibility of getting her hair relaxed ever 8 weeks and I teach her the importance of her hair care. She still gets relaxers because she wants it. But, I still try to encourage natural hair on her whenever I can. This is where my transition comes into play.
I figure, I can’t teach my daughter why she should love her natural hair if I’m still getting relaxers. So, my last relaxer was February 2009 and hopefully, it’ll be my last one for a long time.
This is my journey to learn & love MY hair… because it doesn’t define me, it’s just a part of me.